When she stares at your mouth, smile...then kiss her.
When she pushes you or hit's you, hug her tight.
When she starts cursing at you, say I love you.
When she's quiet, hold her hand and ask what's wrong.
When she ignores you, act cute so she'll notice you.
When she pulls away, pull her back.
When you see her at her worst, tell her you love her and she still looks amazing.
When you see her walking, approach her...give a kiss on the cheek.
When she's scared, assure her you're not going to leave her.
When she lays her head on your shoulder, tilt your head too...and hold her hand.
When she steals your favorite hat, let her keep it.
When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh.
When she says that she likes you, she really does more than you could understand.
When she grabs at your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh.
When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
When she is sick, stay up all night with her.
When she's bored and sad, hang out with her.
When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
When she wants to see her favorite movie or show, watch it with her even if you think it's stupid.
When she says she's okay, don't believe it…talk to her.
When she looks at you in your eyes, don't look away until she does.
When she doesn't answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay.
When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up.
When she misses you, she's hurting inside.
When you break her heart, the pain never really goes away.
When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.
When she's not saying anything, stay on the phone with her.
When you see her start crying, hold her...ask her what's wrong.
When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you'd say is..."Who's ass am I gonna kick baby?"
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Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her.
Call her before you sleep and after you wake up.
Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
Let her wear your clothes.
Let her know she's important.
Kiss her in the pouring rain.
Give her the world.
Readers have left 105 comments.
1. Guest
that is nice, corny, and so very true
3. Jodie
I like those! I may take advice and use some with girlfriend :)
4. Dorin
>> Give her the world.
All this for reproduction ... :)
5. Mia
haha! I hope not in all cases Dorin.. :)
6. siddhartha ezra
so true. i surely would send this to my better half. though he's already sweet. want him to be sweeter. :)
7. orange
what do you do when se tells you all is fine and then 2 days later you find out she slept with an other ?
8. Guest
Is there a list of what she will be doing for me ,while I'm doing all of this for her ? Or is this one of those ideals where the reward is in your doing all of this for her,without thought of your self ? LOVE you don't get it,if you don't give it.
9. Guest
True... very true... I do 90% of those things... but we guys need some loving too! :-D
10. Guest
and what about boys
11. Guest
this is s*****. "when she's mad, hold her and don't let her go." yeah, do that, that'll work.
i*****
12. Guest
Unbelievable. I couldn't possibly remember this stuff and quite frankly have better things to do than play s***** games for a piece of a**. It's because of this s***** s*** that woman think they have so much control nowadays.
If things are equal, or maybe even just a little one-sided for men then I'm ok with that. BUT, I will never kiss a woman's a** like that. Leave that stuff to the guys who absolutely "needs" to be loved by a woman. There are plenty of fish in the sea and if one becomes too needy or too b***** then she's history!
13. René Garcia
Why do the things on this list seem familiar? Oh, because we've probably seen them in a thousand different romantic comedies, that's why.
14. Guest
Half of these are just the whiny dreams of a very insecure woman. Girls, stop giving us a bad name. Come on. You can do better than this.
15. Guest
what about "when she starts f***ing some guy from work?"
16. Guest
i do all this to my girl and she thinks i am a queer .. i be strong and then she likes it
17. Guest
i think these things are so sweet. and yes, what can us girls do for our very special guy? you should make a list for those things too!
18. Guest
She'll start f***ing the guy from work when you stop doing all this. I suppose it's too late by then.
19. Guest
but who wants to go out with a fish?
20. Guest
It doesnt tell u what to do when she has an affair with an 18 year old after ten yrs together, for 6 months, or what to do after said 18 year old beats the crap out of her about 2 days after u find out and leave her. Any ideas?
21. Guest
Tried alot of this and it doesn't work just made her lose respect for me
22. Monique Briand
I Stumbled Upon this article on your blog.
I enjoy it when I see different ways for people to get closer to one another.
I also think that this may do well on Facebook.
Monique Briand
23. Guest
Oh, come on! This is great advice, if you're in high school. If you're looking for a real relationship, life is much, much more complicated.
Women don't really want some wimpy romantic. They want leaders who are willing to take control (bad boys, pricks, and cocky guys). That's why the "nice guy" never wins. It's that way until the day they die. They're just looking for a leader to follow.
24. Guest
My woman may wish I was sweeter, but she seems pretty happy with having a house, car, grocery money, and someone who comes home every night.
I remember her birthday, and our Anniversary, and I still get a baby sitter a couple times a month and take her dancing, even if I would rather play cards and drink some beer.
But if I acted like this, she'd kick my @ss and call me a p****.
I guess what I am saying is what MOST women really want (only my experience) is a man who CAN be sweet, when he doesn't have to be.
Not some effete sycophant who spends all day worshipping your shadow.
That's the nice guy syndrome, treat her a like a queen, and she'll be sure to treat you like a subject. I promise you that.
25. Guest
As a woman, this is a joke! I laugh and scoff. I want my man to be a man, and not be some silly putty in my hands.
27. Guest
Holy hell, I'm a woman and reading all of that made me want to puke! If I'm mad, I don't want to be touched! When I say it is over, I frickin mean it! I could go on and on! Oh..and after really great s**, I don't want to talk or cuddle..I want to go to sleep! Sheesh!
28. Guest
I'm gonna be sick. This is tooooooo dumb. I stumbledupon it. ~That's my excuse....couldn't quite believe how crass and s***** and twee it was. Here comes the sweetcorn.......uuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrhhhhhhhhhhhh
29. Florian
these were probably written by a desperate hurt virgin, just like the karma s****. if men were to do this s***, we would be castrated... this is what you women think you want... but never take advice about women from women!
30. Guest
let me paraphrase...
When she is a heartless b**** trampling your soul; s*** it up, kiss her a**, get slapped around like a little b****, ask for more, and prepare to do it again.
This is what is expected of you... welcome to political correctness, as a man, you are now society's b****.
Great list!
31. Lady Sophiea,
It's sad how todays women dont see it when men do treat them in such a sweet way. seems like girls today would rather have abusive and neglecting spouses rather than love or affection. its a shame, my boyfriend treats me like a princess. and for that he gets worshipped like a god. ;)
and to the person saying that holding a woman when shes mad wont solve it, your right and wrong. it wont solve it but the comfort is just intense enough for us to chill out, calm down and talk about it.
Great stumble. even if modern girls are all B*tchy children without manners, and even if modern men are foul mouthed degenerates.
32. Guest
f*** that s*** how about b****** just sit back take what they are given and do as the are told ohhh for those days again
33. Ur-all-I-need
really nice... infact, its really true... Guys/men should always make ur Love one that she's so very special and let her feel that you couldn't live without her... "Guys listen" The thing that they will offer to you in return, is to love you more than anything in this world, more than her life... "its true" Belive me! Just Love them true like more than ur life as well.. (unless if the woman really loves you without any doubts, the motivation is 100% true)
34. Kai
These actually kind of bother me... more than anything, the fair majority of them sound patronizing and sardonic at best. The remainder are allowing yourself to be trampled on, and essentially make you into a desperate plaything. Sorry, I used to think this kind of thing was romantic, but I think I've figured out life a little more since then.
35. Guest
this corny s*** is defintely made up by a woman.. know how I can tell? cause it's corny s***!
36. WTF
Who wrote this narcissistic crap? Let's go skip through some daisies together too! Yeah, right. How about the list of things a women should do for her Man. Like s****** our s****, not only do we like it, it's proven to reduce the risk of breast cancer. So, we're not selfish, we're helping you with preventive health care.
37. Guest
i wish my bf was like this lol
38. Robert Underwood
All of these are good ideas, but one must also keep in mind that women can and will also take advantage of a guy who acts like this. So simply use common sense. Don't let a woman use you, nor use a woman. Respect and caring is a double edged sword. Without it, one of you gets cut rather than both sharing the pain. There is a fine line between pleasure and pain. All of those same things can be said for a list of men instead of women as well. Truth of the matter is, a man really just wants a woman that will truly be there for him.
39. Guest
When she says "please, don't", you gag her and do it even harder.
40. Twilight
Here's one I have a problem with:
When she pushes you or hit's you, hug her tight.
Nah uh buddy, None of this double-standard crap. That's called Domestic Abuse, I can't hit her without being arrested, she can't hit me.
41. mimi
i would love for a guy to treat me like that
42. Mimzy
Yes yes and yes! I would love for a guy to be like that. That would just make my life seem so so so so everything. but I'm going to be realistic and so sorry ladies but there's no such man on this earth. Maybe there is some that have part of those qualities but there are just so little now a days....
43. Guest
I could be driven mad by this kind of overkill romance. (and yes I am a girl).
44. t
and what u girls can do for us men is give some f****** a**, fridged b****ez , s*** our c*** so hard and give us some deep t******, that's what we want, and when we get back from work be sure the dinner is served, and then give a**, its that simple we just want s** all of the f****** time, i aint kidding, i personally like to hold my girlfriend tight and give her a hug kiss her on the neck and watch some movies, surf with her and fish, ski with her and dance. but that's me, others want other things, but the things that u both like (thus i am saying the hobbies that u two share could bring you together close) that i know
45. Guest
it would be great for guys to be like this from time to time .. but not always! they also need to be a man!
46. Undisputed Truth
Guys don't waste your time with this crap! Women don't want it ! These are the lies they use to weed out the real men from the wanna be's . Don't ever listen to this B.S. If you don't lead, she won't respect you and if you are too nice you're screwed.She will screw another guy, take your money and disrespect you! This crap sounds nice to the world but it ain't reality baby! Guys listen up, don't take any advice about women form a woman. You are men! Act and be a man! It's simple.
47. Guest
I must agree with the above... Personally looking through this list i probably do about a quarter of these with my girls... But past those few things this list is a for sure way to make a girl loose respect for you and think of you as not being a man enough. Some of you need to grow balls and man because that's what most women really want is a man who will take charge and take care of them while still respecting himself as well.
48. help needed
but what if you do all this but don't love her?
how do you lose a sweet gurl that you just don't love back? please help, i'm an a****** by accident.
49. Brieal
Haha. Okay, I like how everyone is getting all tight about this. Really, it's just a cute page. Not everything on here is supposed to be taken seriously. I mean, a couple of these every once and awhile would be cool, and I agree that overuse of a couple of these would be bad, but why is it degrading or puke-worthy? Also: It's nice when a man doesn't stick to the stereotypes set forth for him. I don't want a guy who'd always acting 'macho' and manly. It's better for a guy to just act like himself (and if that includes anything on the list, then more power to him).
50. Mia
Thanks Brieal... :)
51. Guest
Women think they want this kind of treatment. The writing on the wall says women want leaders, not worshipers. The problem with these lists is that if a man does all of these things he emasculates himself, but if he picks a few things here and there she'll know you care. Women love to be able to brag to their girlfriends about what their men do for them so you have show a soft side too.
52. Linda
This article didn't make me sick, reading the comments did. There are so many stupid generalizations. So many guys here are basically saying that all a woman is good for is a f*** buddy. Not only that, but there are women that commented saying "we don't want that, we want this" when it's really "I want this." Every person has their own intrests, including what makes them happy, or what attracts them to someone. If there's a person who thinks that everything on this list is stupid, then fine. If there's someone who thinks that a lot of what's there would be nice, then that's great. No one is the same. It also bugs me that people are saying that no matter what, a woman will "walk all over" any guy who does these things. That's not true either. I know for a fact that I wouldn't. Just because a select few might take advantage of the opportunity doesn't mean that the rest of us will.
53. Guest
I used to do some of these things, but my girlfriend didn't like most of them. To make her happy, I had to change how I responded. Generalizations are nice, but the one sure fire way is to get to know what makes her happy, and do it.
54. Jitendra Singh
damn true
every girl will like this
after all every girl is same
55. Guest
f*** this s*** this is f***ing gay, ill tell you what to do guys, if a girl gives you lip punch her out, if a girl starts to cry call her a b****, why do men have to be good to get a girl, f*** that.
56. milo
This article is slightly ambiguous and misleading.
The most blatant mistake is that not all couples are in a relationship where they have announced their love for one another. We can't all just say "I love you." Some of us are in more complicated situations where we have to say things like "I like you," and "I care about you." Love is a long and complex process. Some pointers on what to say if your not yet in love would help a lot. In that sense it is "lover-centric."
Another thing is that most of the suggestions are formulated in a "[her action] results in [your action]" format. This suggestion deviates from that format: "When she says that she likes you, she really does more than you could understand." When I first read this I figured I should say "you really do more than I can understand," which although may sound sweet, also makes you sound retarded. Obviously, most people understand after reading it a second or third time, but you would be surprised how easily misled some people (men) are.
Oh and I find some of the other comments on this page distasteful and nonconstructive, albeit hilarious.
57. Guest
hit's? Really. Ouch.
58. LYS
Everything's good except this: "When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers."
When it's over, it's over.
59. Guest
corny lame sappy... but so completely true
60. Guest
It's all relativity!! For goodness sake, each person and each relationship is different. What makes me ill is reading some of the more acidic comments calling this all bull and slinging s*** at men and women because we want this, we want that, women all do this if you let her, all men do that; stop thinking like bloody herd animals and remember that we are all HUMAN BEINGS. And, guest #55- that is abuse, not a solution.
61. Guest
What women really want is a man who listens to them, and knows them well enough to not need a st***d list. And what men deserve is a woman good enough to do the same.
62. Drack
I have lost 2 marriages by doing most of these suggestions both times the ladies ended up treating me like dirt cheating on the left and right then saying it was all my fault. Most women I have met will keep going back to the one who is abusing her not the one who is treating her like a Queen. Those few ladies that are treated like a Queen and treat your man like a King are very rare.
63. Guest
God this is so lame and no doubt written by a neurotic 16 year old.
64. Truth
All this crap is fine, just have a little self-confidence. Be ambitious and know what you want out of a relationship, life, whatever. You can do most of the things on that list, while maintaining respect. It's a balancing act, but it's achievable.
65. Guest
i did a few of those listed above, woman aren't that demanding isn't?
66. flare
In reality I would love to have any of this, I get some with my guy, but like anything there is some things that have add in's that arent added, like cusing, if I am pissed and he says he loves me I feel like he is getting off of the subject. So, yes these are great, but remember it has timing...
67. Snea
More than perfect!
68. Guest
The guy I'm with does a lot of these. Not all the time or all at once but often enough to be amazing. It's called caring. And no, he is not 'queer'. He just has a habit of being a great guy.
69. meme
Wow, look at all the asshole men getting mad. Lol
It must suck not to have a perfect relationship, been there! Assholes be gone!
Ah man, it's great to actually have a man that does everything on that list and MORE, and it's great that I do everything on that list for him and MORE. It's called 100/100. Get it right folks. Stop whining. Which is funny, because according to all the whiny men that commented, you'd think women were whiny. Haha
70. Guest
plus if the love is returned in the same way you don't have thoughts problems
71. Guest
i loved it. i think all guys should be required to read this.so true.
72. Guest
if only i could do all this stuff.its hard to be in love with a gay woman when youre a guy!!!!!
73. Guest
Some of these things are sweet, as guys don't generally understand that little things mean so much to woman, but at the same time it's as though its saying women are perfect and even though they are in a mood they should be still loved. I go in moods with my boyfriend for no reason and expect him to make me feel better, but its not right for me to do that. After all Men are from Mars Women are from Venus so we're bound to not understand each other.
74. Guest
even if a guy did do all of these things girls are so blind to what they have that they would make up some imaginary problem just to have some sort of drama in their life.
76. Guest? I stumbled upon...this
Emasculation! Men do not buy into this. Men are men, boys are boys. Men behave like men. Teach your sons and daughters manners and how to treat others, not this load of crap for MEN!
77. Ali
I'm a woman in a very happy, healthy relationship. My man doesn't do all these things all the time but he does a few of them occasionally and by reading my behavior and responding according every so often he reminds me in subtle ways that he loves me a great deal. some of these are really stupid and dramatic. I like having a man who behaves like a man but who knows how to be subtle and attentive every now and then.
78. Guest
Listen who ever wrote this is a woman who loves to manipulate. I’ve been there for all those things and followed everything the same way it’s written in here, and guess what dummy, she told me I was too attached and dumped me. and when I did not do all theses things I was considered abusive so guys trust me woman are sick and you the moment they do this punch her across the face and let her bleed out its what she really wants in the end.
79. Guest
Guys: Grow up. If you're looking for fish in the sea or a piece of a**, then by all means, ignore this list. But if you're looking for an honest relationship, it might make sense to listen to this list. While, yes I agree, this list is probably written by a women, think about this for a second. If it's written by a woman maybe it is what women want. It's not about manipulation, or anything like that - just about feeling loved.
Girls: Don't sell yourself short. No matter what the jacka**** here have to say, these are things that the good guys, the keepers, will do for you, not all the things on this list, but certainly a good number of them. And yeah, especially if we're lucky enough to have a guy like this (I <3 my boy!) we should be treating them like royalty right back in whatever ways make them feel the most loved and taken care of (ex: respecting boy time, cooking (meat) for him, going to the movie he wants to go to instead of a chick flick etc.)
80. charlie
my boyfriend treadted me like that, it made me feel like the most special girl in the world :)
then he dumped me to skate. so guys can be amazing and jerks at the same time.
81. Guest
Wow. All you people who say that this is a load of crap haven't had a relationship with meaning. Girls, if you think this is ridiculous then you just haven't ever had a real man. Guys, if you think this is ridiculous you are just a bunch of egotistical morons who are looking for nothing more than a booty call. Seriously, my man would do all of this plus more. Becauses he loves me. (:
82. Psalm 91
This is nice and true, I wish I had a man like that!!!!!!!!
83. Guest
It's pretty ridiculous. I'd never want my guy to stay up all night watching me sleep when I'm sick, I'd rather he get me an umbrella or find some shelter in the pouring rain, sometimes I need to be left alone when I feel like crap, and really this is a lot of overly romanticized drivel.
And I do have a good man who treats me well, but I'm not some delicate flower who needs to be held and reassured all the time. I want a guy who can treat me like a person, not like a child. A guy who lets me be angry, understands that I still need space, doesn't call me all the damn time, and loves the hell out of me. That's what I got, and he probably only fits about half of this stuff.
It's not all applicable, sorry for all you hopeless romantics out there.
84. Lesliee
I think that ppls are taking this thing all wrong. This is not a way for guys ass to their girl... This dosn't mean you HAVE to do all of these things, they are just suggestions. A lot of girls are different, and a lot of guys are different.
You know, for a guy, this has happened a lot, say you like a girl, but she really dosn't believe you, well this is just a way to prove to her that you do care for her, i think anyway. I have a boyfriend and i think he's done ONE of those things, maybe two, but i know he loves me.
Just saying, in my opinion, this is cute. :)
85. Guest
1. If you're male, Learn how to give your woman/ girlfriend an O****m, She'll never go anywhere.
2. If you're female, learn how to give Great H*** without being asked. He'll never stray.
3. Never, Ever, hit Each Other for
any reason.
4. Respect each others opinion, even if you don't agree with it.
That's all there is to it!
You will go to your graves happy and fulfilled.
Your welcome.
86. Guest
aaaawwww.....so sweet! where can i buy a man like this? i want a dozen pls!
87. Guest
Fact. If a girl pulls away, let her. That's really creepy.
88. Guest
let me just point out that all the self-identified girls think this is great advice and would love a guy to do all this for them, while all the guys are saying that girls dont care about this, they only care about the bad boys (nice guys never win).
89. Guest
You should have added:
"When she writes an impossibly long self absorbed list of needs, then run like a deer. She's nuts.
90. Guest
I dunno, sounds kinda gay.
91. Guest
This list is s**ist, since so many of them imply an irrational woman who always needs romantic re-assurance. If a woman really needs all this all the time: She's incredibly insecure, which is a serious problem in of itself.
What women really want is a combination of nice guy and bad boy. Love comedies are filled with these combo men, but they're rare in real life. Many women date only bad boys because they're more attractive, and then spurn nice guys, and only learn their lesson later in life. Of course, being totally spineless and too devoted too early isn't attractive, your level of devotion should match each other.
Some men and women don't really love and seek to grab the most attractive partner they can and control them. Obviously you must avoid these people, even though they might be the most attractive ones in the room.
92. Guest
Amazing amount of bu****it.
93. Guest
You can think it's bu***hit, but my boyfriend does all of this and it makes me crazy about him.
94. Guest
I think that this list is true and for all of you men out there who are saying that this is bullshit and what do I get in return are dicks. This is more of a guide so that you understand what is really going on in our world and what we need in order to feel better. Not to be mean or anything but men are easier to please then women who are always going through a roller coaster of emotions and mood swings. Take it for what it's worth.
95. Guest
things like this really bother me. it sounds like it was written by a clingy and naive little girl. relationships are meant to be two-way streets, not personal servitude. there's no such thing as a perfect guy, and even if there was, who is any girl to say that she deserves him? if women aren't perfect and demand that they be accepted the way they are, why should men be any different?
96. Guest
Okay, what I would say against that is that this is NOT saying like, "This is how life should be" if you want to suprise your girlfriend, or if you just want to kinda see into girl's minds as the ideal. this is where to look. I promise, there are plenty of "what to do for your boyfriend" things... although they tend to be more sexual... whatever.
97. Guest
i used most of them. got the girl. alwys love her
98. Guest
Call me at 12 am on my birthday and I'll bloody hang up on you.
Anyway, gag me with a spoon, this is some trite bu******.
99. Guest
If her feet are dirty, lay down and be a good little doormat.
100. Guest
This would NOT WORK. No girl would ever respect you, and you would annoy the s**t out of even the sweetest girl in the world with any of this. Don't try it. Girls like jerks who ignore them.
101. Guest
I've thought of a lot of things to say and all I really wanna say is WOW and THANKS
102. Kevin
This is all a load of b*ll s**t , I wouldn't do half that s**t, There is no women who treats a guy like that so f you woman! Women want to be treated equal in the job force , but when it comes to life they want men to do all the s**t jobs for them, cause they are weak and lazy!
103. Guest
So all of this means: disrespect your man and expect to be treated like a queen. Sickening!
104. Guest
Okay this list is GREAT. if more men started doing this relationships wouldn't be so complicated! and if women weren't so insecure with themselves to think all they need are macho guys, it wouldn't be so complicated... But this list is REALLY only for the people who DO LOVE each other.
Or who WANT quality time.. I'm sorry but if a macho guy cant do this list without being called a queer then that women is a bitch and needs to walk. and if anyone has an affair they need to walk.. so don't blame this list, or even "nice" guys for being pussies. more men DO need to do this. but also.. you need to give your man space as well do the things THEY love and like, its not all about the women its about the men to.. remember be equals. things will be A LOT less complicated.
105. another Guest
"Girls like jerks who ignore them."???
Seriously, get a life.
