You might agree with it, but when it actually happens 96% of girls don't realize it 'til it is too late and that guy who did it is so frustrated that he has moved on to someone who will take notice. Here's a list from a guys point of view:
We don't care if you talk to other guys.
But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.
We don't care if a guy calls you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.
Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can't wait till the morning.
Also, when we tell you you're pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/cute/stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don't tell us we're wrong.
We'll stop trying to convince you.
One sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood I'm in.
Let us pay for you! Don't "feel bad" about it.
We enjoy doing it. It's expected.
Smile and say "thank you."
Kiss us when no one's watching.
If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.
You don't have to get dressed up for us.
If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for who you are and not what you are.
Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's, or my t-shirt and boxers, not all dolled up
Don't take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don't get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
Don't talk about how hot Morris Chesnutt, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.
It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.
Whatever happened to the word "handsome" or "beautiful".
Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, don't wait for him to change. Ditch his sorry, disgrace to the male population ass and find someone who will treat you with utter respect.
Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel, or what you do.
Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes... and say "i love you"... and actually mean it.
Give the nice guys a chance.
Tips for the less experienced:
- Holding Hands
Girls: If you want to hold his hand, gently bump into it a couple of times.
Guys: Grab it if it happens more than once.
- Cuddling
Girls: When you want to cuddle with him, tell him you're cold
Guys: Automatically move closer to her.
- Movies
Girls: During a movie, if he puts his arm around you, tilt your head on his shoulder
Guys: Lift her chin up and kiss her.
- Loving each other
Guys: When she tells you she loves you, look deep into her eyes, give her a peck on the lips, and tell her you love her too... And mean it.
- Laying below the stars
Girls: When you're both laying under the stars, put your head on his chest and close your eyes as you listen to his steady heart beat
Guys: Whisper in her ear and link your hands with hers.
Readers have left 26 comments.
1. Joanne
Read the following advice carefully girls.....
"Don't take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it."
If this sounds like your man then go and find someone who actually respects your feelings.....
2. Scott
Or Joanne could get a life and stop taking everything quite so seriously...
A sarcastic mood does not mean someone doesn't respect your feelings, and if you think it does then you probably only think about yourself and not others.
3. :o
my boyfriend is sarcastic a lot and jokes around. That doesn't automaticly say he jokes about me. So i think you should stick with your boy if he jokes around. It proves he has humor and you can't survive a relationship without humor. :)
4. Shaunty
Agreed with Scott.
It's not like that little quip was implying that everything he says should be sarcastic. It's simply pointing out that sometimes, he's just kidding.
And besides, where's the fun in having a relationship that's all about being serious and talking about your 'feelings'? Sorry, but if my guy can't joke around with me, then I tend to end it. Light hearted teasing is important because it's *fun*.
5. Chris
This list sucks pretty hard.
Whats up with the horrible engrish?
"If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed."
Most guys I know aren't really down with PDA especially in casual relationships.
"Let us pay for you! Don't "feel bad" about it. We enjoy doing it. It's expected."
I don't have a problem paying on dates, but saying its expected is ridiculous. If its 'expected' then I also expect to get laid and a turkey and cheese sandwich afterwards!
6. katie
Wow, this is the most awesomely wonderful thing I've read in a while. thank you so much!! I already do a lot of those things, but it's always nice to hear from a guy that it's appreciated :) every guy who leaves negative comments here is in the kind of mindset that I (like I guess the majority of girls) consider disqualifying. again, thank you! will print this ;)
7. Legion
Chris is one of the people who make us all look bad. "Lullz, secks must come after first date hurrrrrr"
The list is sickeningly accurate. (And grammatically correct, Chris. Pull head out of rear-end)
8. NiK
I agree with Legion.
And this list is pretty good. :)
9. simon
nice guys will never learn
10. Guest
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Most of this is really sexist.
11. Chris's Goat
Chris, if you wanna get laid, you know I'm always there for you ;)
12. Legion-left
How, my dear guest, is this sexist? It says nowhere that women should be slaves. It says nowhere that women should not work. It says SIMPLY that men have a point of view, and it is stating that opinion. It is not saying that all things must be done. It is saying that this is how they see things.
13. Stan
My dear reactionist feminist,
Please calm down.
My dear man-whore, Simon,
Tell me how the sex with men is.
Ps, are you in your early to mid twenties?
15. David
Oi "Legion" and nik:
Where did Chris ever say that? He said that it was bull**** for the guy paying to be an expected thing if the guy can't expect sex etc. as well, which while somewhat inflammatory is a valid point. It shouldn't be expected at all, it should be done because they want to anyway. To make the girl happy. Giving a gift, not something that's owed. (which it wouldn't be unless he were getting something back, i.e. sex, which is a rather emotionless relationship)
And it is grammatically correct, in that regard yeah he needs to remove his cranium from his anus.
16. Kevin
wow, the guys on here...and joanne...are d****
17. Guest
this was written by a woman, for sure.
18. Juan Carlo
FINALLY, a dude that can tell his point of view without caring about the Cro-Magnons thinking he's a loser and all the "men-are-all-the-same-so-they-should-all-be-treated-like-dirt" feminist types jump up and consider this sexist. Score one up for the good guys. Oh and Simon... going for quantity rather than quality, huh?
19. Kinleigh
this is so cute [:
i already do most of these with my boyfriend <3 and this isnt sexist in any way, just written from one sex's point of view [:
20. Guest
By 'expected', I think it means the guy doing it expects himself to be the one paying, not that it's universally expected that men should pay for everything. Though that is the case it seems. Not everything is deadly accurate, but it's a good run down of what men can't say themselves. And yeah, I do think is was probably written by a woman.
21. Zach
Amazing, hits pretty much everything on the head. Great Job.
22. Lex
Try some of the things in this post and understand it. Especially the nice guys part. A lot of "nice" guys get over looked because they aren't the toughest but I can promise you that if you give them a chance they would do anything and everything to keep a girl from harm, period. And feel free to have some respect for someone else's point of view.
23. nixesha
Wow. Chris is never gonna get laid. The list is a little sappy, but accurate.
24. Skarkantius
This is the dumbest thing I've ever read. Every guy is different and wants different stuff.
25. Guest
How about men and women just respect each other?? That should be pretty simple.
26. kim
lol.....just wanna laugh after reading all the replies....
