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Try to EAT and SLEEP. However accept that your appetite and sleep patterns will no where near resemble normal for some weeks. I made myself eat a banana every few hours, and rest during the day if I'd slept very badly. Take heart, my doctor told me that you'd have to go for a long time with absolutely no food before you were in any serious danger and he also said that as long as you were getting the minimum of 2 hours sleep a night your body can function. So try not to worry about the disruption, it's normal.
Once it's been said don't ring, write or orchestrate an accidental meeting. This will only jeopardize your self worth and dignity. Right now you need to put effort into building yourself up.
Don't listen to pop music. Most pop songs are about soppy love, spare yourself. There are some neutral styles that might help, I found worship music useful. After a few short days it might be helpful to listen to some angry edifying music, my anthem for my break up was Britney Spears 'Stronger'.
Grasp reality. When various things make you crumple, whether it be a news reel about his favorite football team or a program you enjoyed watching with her remind yourself that he doesn't coach the football squad or she doesn't write the program! There are millions of people supporting or watching etc. This might sound peculiar but it helped me to 'get a grip'.
Make a list of all the things that made you wanted to throttle him/her alive, or worse. Often when we are the one 'dumped' it can create a false sense off their worth, as if they must be a more desirable person then we. As humans we're rarely wholly satisfied by our partner, something I now realize must come from within ourselves.
Get absorbed in a new book or project, like I did in building this community. It provides an outlet for all that nervous energy.
Keep a diary. It illustrates how quickly we move through the process. I found it vital to just sit and type type type. Also cut and paste helpful articles if it's on your computer, you can then go on to write how you will put it into action.
Keep yourself in tip top condition. After a long bath you always feel an emotional boost. If you have been enjoying the occasional visit to the gym consider visiting for extra sessions. It's a proven fact that exercise is a mood booster.
Allow yourself time to cry, it's necessary, even you guys! It will stop, sooner than you think. Breaking up is a form of grieving, and there's no shame in acknowledging the loss of the hopes that you held.
Talk to your friends, we've ALL been hurt and had relationships blow up in our faces. I found my friends invaluable; my friends mean the world to me. Talking helps us unfuzz a lot of our thinking, and allow the dust to settle more swiftly.
Try not to worry about the severity of your despair, it will pass. If you're concerned that you're suffering over and above what you can cope with discuss your fears with your Doctor.
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