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In thinking of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you find a new one, you suddenly see this failure as a teacher.
In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go!
You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if his or her happiness means you not being part of it.
Everything happens for the best. If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again; you'll never know if it will be returned unless you give it a try. You never really loved unless you risk for it.
Love strives and grows in hurting. If you don't get hurt, you don't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time. The hurting is there to test you and help you grow. You cannot finish a book without closing its chapters. To move on, you have to leave the past in the same way you turn the pages.
Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture wherein we are always learning, discovering and growing.
Love's greatest irony is letting go when you need to hold on and/or holding on when you need to let go. Loving people means giving them the freedom to choose whom and where they want to be, regardless whether those choices lead towards or away from you.
We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves.
Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called 'falling in love' because you don't force yourself to fall. You just fall.
In falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse. But don't make the same mistake of riding the same one that first threw you.
Reaching for another risks involvement. To expose your feelings is to expose your true self.
Loving again risks rejections, in the same way that life risks death and hope risks failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risking - and reaching for - nothing!
How to define love? It means falling but not stumbling, being constant but not too persistent, sharing and never being unfair, understanding and trying not to demand - and hurting without keeping the pain.
Love is like a knife. It can stab the heart or carve into the soul wonderful images that last for a lifetime. It can hurt your heart, fill you with desire, and tear you apart.
Love should inspire you and give you joy and strength. Though the very things that do so can also hurt you in the end. For all the heartaches and tears, the gloomy days and fruitless years - give thanks, for these were the things which helped you grow.
Love requires that certain risks be taken, matter how scary or painful. Only then will you experience the fullness of your humanity.
If you're not ready to cry, take risks, to feel the pain - then you're not ready to fall in love.
When you decide to love, allow it to grow and refuse to let it die!
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