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Guy Loves Girl - Girl Likes Guy's Best Friend |
Age-old problem: Guy loves girl. But girl and guy's best friend like each other too. Guys, here are tips on how to deal with the whole situation. Girls, listen up for the low-down straight from a male perspective.
Boys, picture this...
You consider yourself the luckiest guy because you've got a best bud who looks out for you and a girlfriend who's just perfect for you. What you can't say to your girl, you tell your best bud (presuming, of course, that he's a guy).
At the same time, your relationship with your girlfriend is very intimate and there are things that you can only say to her. Judging from the way these two people treat you, it's obvious that they like you a lot.
Problem is, what if they start liking each other?
You must be saying that these things happen only in the movies. Trust me, it can happen. And if it does, what would you do? How do you deal with the people concerned? I'm sure I wouldn't want to go through something like this!
Coping with Betrayal
If a thing like that happens to me, I bet that more than anything, I would feel betrayed. When you give so much love to them and something like this happens, you may feel very angry. You feel betrayed and alone all of a sudden.
I really wouldn't blame you. You need to release all the bad vibes you feel, but this can only take you so far. My dad always tells me that anger hinders you from thinking straight. I'm not going to be hypocritical and ask you to roll with the punches. But neither do I encourage you to be bitter for the rest of your life.
I know it hurts a lot, but growing up means dealing with these things. What will shape you as a person is how you react to the situation.
Why?
But this time, you're thinking why this happened in the first place. There's the unwritten rule that a guy can not make a pass at his friend's girl. And any girl in love wouldn't dare entertain the thought of going out with her boyfriend's best bud.
There are things in life that you can never be ready for, and I guess this is one of them. So it's okay to feel angry. I think that would be a guy's natural and first reaction.
Right now, it's quite impossible for you see either of them, together or not. Maybe you're looking for someone to blame. Well, it's definitely not your fault. If they love you so much, how could they think of doing this in the first place, right?
Whether or not you try to talk to them is up to you. Personally, I think you deserve to. But right now you're very vulnerable. Be sure that you don't do anything you'll regret later.
Do Not...
...Go off drinking. This resolves nothing and only offers momentary distraction. Once you wake up the next day, you're gonna have a heavy head and an empty wallet.
...Date anyone else immediately. You're on the rebound and there's a chance that you might want to date only to forget the thing that just happened. Dude, you're gonna end up hurting someone else.
...Be violent. You can talk to the parties involved, but violence resolves nothing.
...Keep to yourself. You have friends who want to help. Take the offer and talk to them.
End of the world?
Definitely not! It's simply the start of another chapter in your life. The most important thing for you before you move on is to have closure.
Say what you have to say. Blame who you have to blame. Difficult as it may seem, you must make sure that by the day you're ready to move on, you must have the smallest amount of hatred left in you (it is, after all, impossible to just forget about the whole thing, right?).
It may sound mean but I'll say it anyway: ditch them both.
You deserve better. Your whole life is ahead of you. Remember, what separates the crybabies from the growing boys is the ability to surpass life's challenges.
Trust me, one day, you are going to wake up and feel just fine.
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